Why moving my body should be F.U.N

August 14. I made up an acronym to remind myself why I don’t want to use the “E”(xercise) word anymore and just call it what it really is: Moving my body! It’s what  we were born to do naturally. I move so that I don’t get stiff joints and “old, before my time”. I move because it takes me out of my head and forces me to focus on my breathing and my limbs. So here is why moving is F.U.N to me:

Freedom.

I heard quote one day from an avid runner, whose was asked  why they run, they answered simply: “Because I can”. If we contemplate how many people would give just about anything to have the ability and freedom to just move a limb! but sadly, will never have or no longer can. When we who have the ability to move do so freely, we honor those who cannot, and we demonstrate our own expression of gratitude to the Giver of life and movement. Then we use that freedom to discover ways that moving our bodies, something we can thoroughly enjoy!! Whether it be in stretching, weight lifting, biking, climbing, Pilates, pick-your-favorite-sport (mine is skateboarding:)Holla!) or sitting in a chair purposely fidgeting or dancing with our upper body (yup, that counts as movement in my book!). I’ve discovered the liberation of movement has the potential to be: well, mind-blowing.

Unlock.

There are too many voices in our head that tell us we “Can’t”. And even make up some legit reason for why. I won’t breathe more life into mine by  listing all my negatives. But you know what they are. I am relieved by the fact that even the most active, lively, vibrant and energetic person, have the same internal negative voices, they just: choose to ignore them. And for that reason probably can’t hear them as loudly as others. Ignoring our negative internal voices unlocks, or releases another more powerful voice that expresses with sheer elation an “Oh yeah?! Watch me!!” response. Whatever it is we are afraid to try, when we conquer that fear with DOING, we unleash, or unlock a magnificent power. We ALL have it. It’s the power to conquer the No with the Yes. The Evil with the good. The negative thought-with positive action. If you can’t tell by now, yes,  I am reading the Bible, as well as, As a Man Thinketh by James Allen. I highly recommend it if you want to Unlock your YES and…as a result find your reasons to move: Every.Single.Day.

Now.

Yes Simply: Do. It.Now. Don’t delay it anymore. Sometimes, honestly, it’s not just a question of when to start but also how to start. My answer is generally: just take a walk. Fast or slow, it doesn’t matter, just go! Maybe around the neighborhood, if it feels safe. If leaving the house feels most impractical, I recommend going to YouTube or googling any activity you love, or use to love…and find ways to participate in something your body will thank you for, at least once a day. Even if it’s just for 60 seconds. I admit, my favorite thing to do is pick a destination within a 3 mile that I enjoy visiting (local mall, dress shop, shoe store -are you sensing a theme here?:) I also enjoyed a walk to Sprouts farmers market the other day. It was an exhilarating walk and beautiful weather, where I was able to see part of the neighborhood scenery that I never get to enjoy just driving quickly by.

Need more motivation? I also recommend these articles from one of my favorite “Move” experts ( I think I made that term up) : http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-14654/am-i-too-fat-to.html and http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-13653/why-youre-making-life-hard-how-to-make-it-easy.html. http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-13653/why-youre-making-life-hard-how-to-make-it-easy.html . Both articles are by Michael Taylor. Practically every article I’ve read by Michael Taylor is inspirational to keep moving, no matter what your limitations ( imagined more than real, usually) are.

If I could add an R to Fun (Fun…r?) it would be, and I think Mr. Taylor might fondly agree:

Relax.

I must constantly remind myself: Do! not! over think! movement!  Just move. Remember like when we were five and would run like a gorilla just for the fun of it? While I’m not advocating  the gorilla part (nor discouraging it- if it makes ya feel good!), I do encourage movement just for reconnecting with our childhood happiness. For peace of mind and heart. For release of stress and negative emotions. Just! MOOOOOVE.

And for an added why, we can’t leave out the obvious reasons: If we move in the way that we love, not in a forced or demanding routine way, but one that we are excited about and relish in the participation of, we’ll stick with it longer, and we will get lost in the doing, not focused on “results”. Maybe we laugh or sing while we do it. Maybe our movement allows us to explore the outdoors or connect with ourselves, God and/or others in way we haven’t done in too long of a time, or maybe never have at all. There is truly little to lose, and so much to gain from movement!

Until next time,

Roxie

It’s Not how I Start, It’s how…

 

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July 22. A Reflection…

Today. I am 10 lbs lighter than I was a month ago. After being tired! and frustrated! with myself for putting on 10 lbs without blinking, feeling lost as to how I let myself “get here again”. Well. It’s NOT how you START. It’s how you FINISH. I’ve been doing a mostly fruit and veggie smoothie week (with 2-3 hours between meals to allow my food to fully digest from the previous meal). That means: 2-4 meals are smoothies in the day and 1 is a “regular” chewing food meal (preferably supper), and LOTS of water.

Why am I so content? I’ve gained my self-control back. I feel fuller and mentally sharper. I’m exercising 2-3 days a week, and  I’m feeling stronger, both physically and mentally.

I’m doing this not because I’m following someone else’s “plan” but instead, because I told myself this is what I will do to get back on track.This is for me to me: I’m trying to honor self promises. I am learning that’s one of the first steps to success.

 

If you’re gonna Binge…At least! do it the right way.

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July 14. Oh this weight loss thing I call a “Journey” (it’s what I call learning my hair too…understanding my whole body has become a never ending “journey” I suppose) has taken me to so! many! places! And just when I think I’ve arrived at my destination, I am forced to pick up my bags and keep moving…cuz I ain’t there yet. That is especially true whenever I get on my high horse thinking I’ve conquered my food addiction. I can go for a long stretch feeling completely empowered and in control of my emotions and my so-called hunger ( I go into details about what that means in an earlier entry where I discuss how for me “hunger”isn’t always about food- but rather a false response to needing things not even in the genre of food, like needing to hear a friend or family member’s voice, or maybe needing a hug…). Then one day “out of the blue”: I’m not in control anymore. And sure, the reasons have been for an unending list of factors (I’m grown enough to admit are more often than not) all on me. I won’t go on forever but a few factors that can cause a “un (yeah, right) expected” binge are:1. After  feeling in control for a few weeks, I let my guard down and eat things that kill my “intuitive eating” signals (For me it’s usually anything in the grain and processed fats category).  Other times it’s just 2.stress, from any direction. Then other times it’s just plain 3.lying to myself that I can eat a food I know is a Binge trigger because “I’m over bingeing now” YES,THAT IS A LIE…I will always be in “recovery” but never “recovered. I’ve had to come to terms then, to this very undeniable truth, in my case. I WILL GIVE INTO A BINGE SOONER OR LATER.

So my tip for today, to myself, and to a few out there like me, is:

If you’re gonna binge… do it right, for Peter’s sake! First. Y’all must know this about me:  I am in noooo-OH! way advocating that giving into a food binge is ever “OK”. It really isn’t. But neither is a car accident. We still wear seatbelts don’t we? and If by encouraging me to wear a seat belt I’d interpret you to mean I should get into a car accident once in a while?…sure.You have the right to call me crazy. Same vein, I am advocating how I safely do what I may, unfortunately, experience at any time as a food addict, or any normal day, or what sneakingly starts out as one. So when it hits, I like to be prepared. Although, like a car accident, its much better to avoid a binge altogether.

So with that disclaimer. What do I mean by doing a Binge “right”?Well there isn’t anything technically “right” about a binge. But if it’s going to happen I will try to ALWAYS have the right foods in the pantry and fridge to lessen the impact and unwanted results from a Binge. My reality is: in my most desperate moments when I am trying to feed an insatiable “hunger”, or quiet an uncomfortable emotion that feels physically painful! I’ve given in and O.D’ed. I.E.Binged. Because my brain is beyond convinced that the answer is not in my husband’s touch or in my mama’s voice but for sure this time, eating is the cure!!!… on… Kettle chips? Nope I won’t buy ’em, I love em too much! Same ban on regular ice cream,  Peanut butter- even the organic kind ( I’ve tried them all, I love them all and I’m intolerant to them all. Plus, they’re too high in fat and mold anyway) is a no go either…. Sunflower seeds? Cashews…love ’em! Too addictive. Won’t bring those in the house anymore either.

So I binged on carrots. Yes.I said carrots. Like 8 big stalks of them. Because that is what I had in the fridge and it was colorful and crunchy so yup. I binged on carrots. Don’t laugh… OK… permission to laugh. Seriously though, I’ve cried myself to sleep because I couldn’t stop at one carrot! I use to believe that any lack of self-control was a failure. THAT IS STILL TRUE. But the difference between Roxie now and Roxie then is this: Accepting that failure: will happen. It is a moment in time but not who I am.

Repeat: A Failure WILL happen, but it is a moment in time, NOT who I am.

And in the end. I got a lot of needed vitamins for my binge.

The point is: I don’t do this every day(anymore). And it is the LEAST of the horrible things I can binge on. Which is why my Trick is: Keep the pantry and fridge stocked with BINGE Safe foods. Like Apples! bananas!  Cherries! Pineapple! Watermelon! blueberries! Strawberries! Jicama! Broccoli! Celery! Apricot! ( Try O.D’ing on those!!.. yeah well… I have. I’ll just say: not for the first time Binger!) and… Carrots!! Lots of ’em! And my eternal goal is never to stock my pantry with things that I should only eat in very little quantity or in rare moderation due to an intolerance or harmful ingredients, and definitely not things I’m allergic to. (And yes my husband has a shelf of all those things: My trick for that:Put those waaay far away and waaaay out of reach. Thankfully, my binge self likes more instant gratification, nothing I have to get a stool to reach.and my husband is a bit taller than I am.)

OK. Now. Rewind. The “unexpected” binge comes back. This time. I eat 5 Mangos. I try to go for a 6th but I’m full and my tongue feels all weird and sore from the acidity in the fruit. Nature has a very physical way of communicating when enough is enough. I’ve just never gotten that feeling with Donuts, until the entire 4,ooo calorie box is gone! Then I’m left feeling queasy, bloated and angry with the donuts, myself, the world. 5 medium size mangos? :1,000 calories max. And I’m not queasy, maybe a little bloated…but not very angry. True, I still believe calories matter. But I’ve learned when it comes to binges, the lesser of any evil -is the goal here. And if it’s a fruit or a veggie, it’s not even in the evil category ( unless you are allergic or intolerant,like I am to citrus and sigh, to my beloved bananas,moment of silence while I eat a banana).

Summary: So a Binge is never a good idea. But when (not if) it happens, my kitchen is wearing the safety belt: Lots of fresh fruits and veggies (no dip!)- washed and ready to eat. because when I’ve bulldozed through my pantry and fridge like an out of control 18 wheeler…at least it has a fighting chance at survival. And so do I.

No accidents here: 2 out of 9 ways to lose those stupid lbs: On Purpose

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July 6. So If you have heard this before you’re not alone “I don’t know how I lost the weight, it just started coming off”. When I hear it, I think one of two things “Are you physically ill and need to see a Doctor?” or,  well…”Are you physically ill, and need to see a Doctor?”

Trust me I use to say “Please tell me your secret!!!” But In the last 30 years or more struggling to win the battle of my own 70 lb weight loss …I have learned this undeniable truth: When you are overweight, as I was, losing weight, unless you have a medical condition, doesn’t happen by accident. It comes from focused, concentrated effort. I’d like to repeat that…it’s pretty key: If you are overweight, losing weight does NOT happen by accident. It comes from focused, concentrated EFFORT. It makes me mad to believe it. Madder to accept it. But once I came to terms -here’s another undeniable truth I’ve learned:

LOSING EXTRA WEIGHT ON PURPOSE-IS SWEETER AND MORE REWARDING THAN ANYTHING I’VE EVER EATEN TO “FEEL BETTER” (if you have been there before, do you remember the feeling of losing the extra lbs after many “long” months of skipping out on the  social eating, the “junk food” and  the “splurges” to hit the gym and eat a salad instead? Do you remember the sweet taste of victory you enjoyed?  maybe it was short lived…but you LIVED IT! and yeah…yeah it was sweet!!… hold on to that memory for the duration of this reading…if you haven’t had it yet, use your imagination and trust that it’s better that it feels even more fulfilling and victorious than that. I’ve been there)

Here are 2 TIPS, from experience, TO ARRIVING OR GETTING BACK TO YOUR  GOAL WEIGHT “Wonderland” …ON PURPOSE.

 ( and one very personal BONUS tip for those of you, like me, who thrive on …Bonus tips;) )…

#1: Wean yourself gradually off of 3 big meals a day. For me it meant one full “meal” ( you know the veggie, carb and protein combination you see on the “perfect plate” image in health magazines). The other two meals were more like “snack size”. But more than the size of your plate, what’s on it matters even more. Here’s a hint for the next one…It’s calories.

#2 Calories, watch ’em. Yup. I’d be the first to want to poopoo my own message here, but experience has taught me: Focused weight loss means consuming less calories than you burn in a day. There’s a lot of intricate science out there that explains how every individual burns a different number of calories when resting due to metabolism etc. And most of it is true. But without having to understand it all you can follow a very simple principle using one of a list of websites  that will actually calculate for you how many calories you need to consume in order to lose weight. Yayuh! Hey, I appreciate every last bit of help I can get in the struggle, so I don’t have to figure it out myself. Just follow the steps- it will do the rest, well, eating less calories is still up to us. But knowledge my friend is OH so powerful! and it starts with asking this simple question: ” how many calories do I need to consume to shed this unwanted weight?”. Here’s two sites I highly recommend that will supply the answer very simply for you : http://www.calculator.net/calorie-calculator and my all time fave (Clue to next tip…) : https://www.myfitnesspal.com/

But, it’s not just about the calories either. Of course. We’ll address that in the tip list to follow…

 

Ah! My BONUS TIP: It’s so simple it’s the hardest one of ALL:

#BONUS: BE!LIEVE! Believe that you will lose the weight and tell yourself that you can and you are losing weight.  ( even if it feels like a lie…I know, but it’s not a lie. It is a fact and will become a fact if you trust it. The most important part? is that it WORKS) Our mind is the most powerful weapon to fight the battle of weight loss…yeah, sometimes it wins the battle over me  too…but the WAR (pause for it!…) is never over.

Stay with me, as I will continue to share my personal tips that I’ve used to lose weight on purpose, more throughout the week. They are all interrelated. but I’ve learned most of us-read:ME- can only handle a few small life changes at once. So we’ll work together at this, poco a poco…litle by little…we we’ll get there together…bit by bit. Until we meet again…

Roxie 🙂

 

 

 

Day 1. Riding the Wave: Tips for weight loss and management…and a few tricks too.

My name is Roxie. I just turned 4o. Roxpiration365 is Daily inspiration I share to help myself and you stay determined and focused on being fit, healthy, positive, and REAL. Every day of the year, for the rest of our lives.
This blog is not meant to diagnose or prescribe any method or medicine. It is a record of my personal discovery and ongoing health journey. Maybe something in it will inspire you too.

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July 4. This is day 1. My very first post. Why did I begin roxpiration365? I’ve prayed and stumbled on this journey for quite sometime and now I’m here. Nope not at “destination: Utopian life” but rather at the point where I turn the corner to a healthier, more fit, more determined self. And the way I plan to stay here is the only way I know how. To inspire others. To inspire you. To say to you what I need to hear everyday to keep motivated. Motivated to eat right, to workout, to stay inspired and to be a positive influence on at least one other person, besides myself. This morning I chose you. Who will you choose? No pressure though 😉 I ask you only to pass on the inspiration to someone else that might need it because I know how good it feels. But only when you are ready. Like I am right now. I promise you this…passing on inspiration: feels AMAZING.

My inspiration tip for today: Ride the Wave. It really is the theme of this blog. Our life is like a wave. It ebbs and tides. We struggle, we sail or float. Sometimes we feel like we are drowning. But we are not. Not if you are reading this post. You as alive as I am. And if you got past paragraph 1, you don’t just want be alive. Like myself, you want to THRIVE! and so do I. That is why I wrote this blog. Riding the wave means even when you feel like drowning you look for something…anything! to keep you inspired, motivated to keep going. For me I find my weight lost inspiration in past journals that I kept where I wrote down the keys to my past success. I will share those too on this blog. I will also share my failures, but I wont dwell on them. Only to keep it real, and to prove that failure doesn’t mean drowning it means sucking in a little water but still getting above it and riding the wave again. So how do we ride the wave?

1. Find your inspiration: From ANYWHERE. Scriptures, past journals, health books, you tube videos ( google inspirational videos, people last night I stumbled upon an awesome you tube video about 2 amazing people, I recommend googling them: Michaela de Pierce and another was Sam Berns. I said after watching them both, I’d never complain again. Probably not true, but they inspired me enough to come up for air and see the light again.

2. Ask yourself one question: “Am I happy right now? If not why not?” Sometimes to be happier, it works to name the thing that makes us unhappy. For me it’s often feeling guilty that I’ve gained weight. Again. Which makes me feel out of control.Again. So for me it’s about regaining control. That’s where the critical number 3 takes shape.

3. Breathe and wait. Don’t lose the present. I’m often so busy thinking about what I should be doing next, that I forget to enjoy the now. That includes when I am eating. So often I am eating while standing up, while doing the dishes, or emailing…I’m not in the present, I don’t even enjoy the meal, truthfully, I can barely taste it! I’m not focused on the pleasure I derive from eating, then I wonder why I am hungry again 15 minutes after dinner. Has that happened to you? Here is what I’m learning: Don’t lose the present.  Enjoy your food. and secondly. Wait. Don’t postpone gratification but replace it. What? Replace it with what? you ask?… OK. Let me explain. At times we think we need food NOW. But what are we reeeeally hungry for? Is it the food or the feeling the food can bring. This is a BIG one for me and one I will flush out in a future blog. But briefly I’ll explain it here:  I mean can you WAIT IT OUT? wait to eat until you are ABSOLUTELY sure what you are hungry for. Sometimes I’ve surprised myself and found the answer to “What am I really hungry for?” and I’ve heard my inner voice respond ” You need a hug” …Say what?! (That’s me talking back to my inner voice). Other times I’ve asked myself “What are you really hungry for?” and the answer comes back “I miss my sister”. Crazy but true. It’s not food at all that I need. It’s a feeling or an emotion like missing someone or needing something -not at all related to food! Sometimes I need to hear a family member’s voice but at first I really really believe that I wanted- needed!- a AB ( Almond butter, I’m allergic to peanuts) sandwich. Even though I just finished dinner 15 minutes earlier.  Again it’s crazy but I’m telling the truth. Try it. Let me know if it happens to you. If indeed you find the answer is “I really want a AB sandwich” when in reality you aren’t physically hungry because you just ate a full meal. Can you postpone the AB sandwich for a half hour? If so, You are doing it: you are building amazing self-control.  You are riding the wave. You may not succeed all the time and you may not remember to do it every time ( I’ll be honest, I don’t always remember either) but when you do! Let me warn you: You’ll scare yourself from how much stronger you feel, and much more in control of this little gift you’ve been given called : your life. And  with this small act of “Waiting- out- the -instant- gratification- although-I-feel- like- a -2 -year- old- that -will- die!-if -I -don’t -get- what- I want-NOW- feeling” is really huge ripple strengthening effect: that WILL add up over time. You wont die, first of all. In fact, You’re mental strength WILL increase and you WILL inevitably lose weight because you will be able to postpone overeating or the junk food pleasures, longer and longer until you convince yourself, you don’t need it at all. I call it:out thinking my brain.

Let me know if and how long it works for you. Ask me any questions you can think of and I’ll direct you to the experts I’ve learned from. Re-read this post as often as you need to.  I’ll be here all day and tomorrow too.

Roxie